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Tražite čarobnu formulu dugog i sretnog braka,ključ za sretan brak? Nije nešto posebno čarobna, ali američki istraživači su ju ponudili: ako želite dug i sretan brak, podijelite kućne poslove i nemojte se izvlačiti kada treba ih učiniti!
Istraživači Sveučilišta Missouri su razgovarali sa 160 mladih parova starijih od 30 godina koji su imali barem jedno dijete i raspitali se o njihovom stilu života. Oko 40 posto žena je radilo, dok je 60 posto njih bilo kod kuće kako bi se brinulo o djeci ili su bile nezaposlene.

Istraživači su zaključili da je brak bio bolji za oba partnera što su očevi bili uključeniji u život svoje djece i što su imali bliskiji odnos s njima. Također, bračna je sloga bila neupitna kod onih parova koji su podjednako sudjelovali u kućnim poslovima, s tim da nije bitno tko je što radio, naglasili su stručnjaci. Bitno je da su muškarci sudjelovali na neki način.

Tako podjela kućanskih poslova jednog para neće odgovarati nekom drugom, no poenta je da sav teret obaveza ne padne samo na ženska leđa, savjetovali su američki stručnjaci, čija je studija objavljena u časopisu Žurnal za obiteljske teme.

 

The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work

The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work

Straightforward in its approach, yet profound in its effect, the principles outlined in this book teach partners new and startling strategies for making their marriage work. Gottman has scientifically analysed the habits of married couples and established a method of correcting the behaviour that puts thousands of marriages on the rocks. He helps couples focus on each other, on paying attention to the small day-to-day moments that, strung together, make up the heart and soul of any relationship. Packed with questionnaires and exercises whose effectiveness has been proven in Dr Gottman’s workshops, this is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential. ‘An eminently practical guide to an emotionally intelligent – and long-lasting – marriage’ Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional IntelligenceAccording to most relationship books, the key to a solid marriage is communication, communication, communication. Phooey, says John Gottman, PhD, author of the much-lauded Why Marriages Succeed or Fail. There’s much more to a solid, “emotionally intelligent” marriage than sharing every feeling and thought, he points out–though most couples therapists ineffectively (and expensively) harp on these concepts.

Gottman, the director of the Gottman Institute, has found through studying hundreds of couples in his “love lab” that it only takes five minutes for him to predict–with 91 per cent accuracy–which couples will eventually divorce. He shares the four not-so-obvious signs of a troubled relationship that he looks for, using sometimes amusing passages from his sessions with married couples. (One standout is Rory, the paediatrician who didn’t know the name of the family dog because he spent so much time at work.)

Gottman debunks many myths about divorce (primary among them that affairs are at the root of most splits). He also reveals surprising facts about couples who stay together. They do engage in screaming matches. And they certainly don’t resolve every problem. “Take Allan and Betty”, he writes. “When Allan gets annoyed at Betty, he turns on ESPN. When Betty is upset with him, she heads for the mall. Then they regroup and go on as if nothing’s happened. Never in forty-five years of marriage have they sat down to have a ‘dialogue’ about their relationship.” While this may sound like a couple in trouble, Gottman found that they pass the love-lab tests and say honestly that “they are both very satisfied with their relationship and they love each other deeply”. Through a series of in-depth quizzes, checklists and exercises, similar to the ones he uses in his workshops, Gottman provides the framework for coping with differences and strengthening your marriage. His profiles of troubled couples rescued from the brink of divorce (including that of Rory, the out-of-touch doctor) and those of still-happy couples who reinvigorate their relationships are equally enlightening. —Erica JorgensenStraightforward in its approach, yet profound in its effect, the principles outlined in this book teach partners new and startling strategies for making their marriage work. Gottman has scientifically analysed the habits of married couples and established a method of correcting the behaviour that puts thousands of marriages on the rocks. He helps couples focus on each other, on paying attention to the small day-to-day moments that, strung together, make up the heart and soul of any relationship. Packed with questionnaires and exercises whose effectiveness has been proven in Dr Gottman’s workshops, this is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential. ‘An eminently practical guide to an emotionally intelligent – and long-lasting – marriage’ Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence

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